translunar: To everyone who has EVER told a trans person not to change their body because YOU like it as it is.
Reblogged from justpyro
You basically said to them
“What your body looks like is more important to me than you are as a person.”
So fuck you.
How does that even imply that they aren’t interested in your personality? To me the statement just means to be yourself on the inside…
I interpreted their statement completely different. You don’t need to lose your shit on someone who doesn’t understand. Your original post was way too vague for anyone who doesn’t know you/know about trans* people to even understand.
Push yourself back from the computer and think. The second it clicks in that something’s triggering you and you get angry, STEP BACK. Or at least try and learn to. There’s a difference between being outraged/calling someone out on being a dick and losing your shit and helping no one.
Even if you don’t agree, please hear me out.
You know what? No. I’m sick and tired of reigning in my emotions for everyone’s sake but my own. I really don’t care if they were just ignorant. People just being ignorant has never stopped me from being hurt. Not once. I don’t owe niceness to anyone and god fucking dammit it’s never gotten me anywhere except more hurt and stepped all over. I gave a coherent explanation, they can take it or leave it I don’t care.
And I really don’t have the capacity to step back and consider that I might be hurting someone else’s feelings a tiny bit by getting defensively angry because doing that has this tendency to make my life awful. I stay calm and people don’t take me seriously, I get mad and suddenly it’s about my tone and not about what I’m saying. I guess there’s no fucking way to win.
I get it. I’m supposed to be calm and nice and sweet to everyone always no matter how much I hurt and I can’t express anything ever and it doesn’t fucking matter if I was triggered because ohmygod I was mean to someone and nobody should ever say not-nice things to people ever even if it’s in self defense.
